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The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it and ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is. – Winston Churchill

It’s our regular weekly meeting.  We are going from manager to manager giving a debrief on our team’s performance and project updates.  My mind is wandering as my peers give their summaries. I’m thinking to myself, “Is this it? Is this what it’s all about?”  I know what you’re thinking, pretty existential stuff.

Seriously, though. You’ve all been there. Wondering if what you are doing is what you are suppose to be doing.  If what you think you should be doing is something you are capable of getting done. Do you have the capacity, courage?

We have to step back and take a bit of a reality check at times.  Often I can get caught up and start to romanticize what work should be like – in my world. But, I’m learning to check that at the door and make mental compromises and adjustments.  In Monday Morning Choices, David Cottrell writes:

Understand that choosing reality may not always be the easiest path, but bottom line, it will push you ahead on the road of life.

[Note: This is the 11th in a 12-week series of posts that will discuss “choices” from the book Monday Morning Choices by David Cottrell.]


The measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of convenience, but where he stands in times of challenge and adversity. – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

This past Saturday I had the pleasure of attending the Alzheimers Association Chocolate Symphony Fundraiser in Philadelphia. Throughout the night people shared their personal stories of lost due to Alzheimers or the challenges they faced living with the disease or loved ones with the disease.

The common thread through each story was that being diagnosed with Alzheimers (which is not preventable or curable as of today) is not a knockdown blow. Each person’s story was one of inspiration, not desperation. It was a message of affirmation and celebration.

We all face adversity. It comes into our lives at different times, in different ways – but no one is immune. How we chose to respond becomes what is important.  In Monday Morning Choices, David Cottrell provides three things we can do to make the Adversity Choice:

  1. Realize the adversity is short term. Allow others to help you work your way through the adversity you are facing.
  2. Don’t panic, freeze, and stop because you perceive the adversity as insurmountable. You can respond better to crisis when you maximize your forward motion. Keep moving forward.
  3. Don’t waste your energy looking for someone to blame. Choose to see the positives and opportunities to grow, even in the face of adversity.

[Note: This is the 8th in a 12-week series of posts that will discuss “choices” from the book Monday Morning Choices by David Cottrell.]

[Note: This is the 2nd in  a 12-week series of posts that will discuss “choices” from the book Monday Morning Choices by David Cottrell.]

“When work, commitment, and pleasure all become one, and you reach that deep well where passion lives, nothing is impossible.” – Anonymous

New Year’s Resolutions are ridiculous. There I said it. I understand I’ve probably offended a good number of people who chronically set these goals each year and then, in most cases, reset them again exactly one year later.  Now, I’m not saying these people are ridiculous, just the goal setting mechanism of resolutions.  If you want to change, get something done, make a difference, you have to be more than just interested in getting it done – you need to be committed.

Commitment is not set by a turn of a calendar page. It created by passion and drive and set in the heart and mind. I, like all of you, have been interested in many goals. When I was younger I was interested in becoming a magician, and a pilot, and an inventor, etc.  As an adult I am interested in getting in shape, losing weight, learning a language, etc.

But, I am committed to being a caring father and loving husband. I am committed to keeping myself educated and my mind sharp.  The difference between commitment and interest is that when we are committed to something we believe it is important enough that we are willing to stay the course.

David Cottrell shares some of the attributes of passionately committed people:

  • They do what they say they’ll do because they have made the commitment to do it.
  • They believe strongly they can achieve a goal that they can envision themselves crossing the finish line.
  • They write and verbalize their commitments.
  • They’re realistic.
  • People who choose commitment invest in achieving their goals.
  • Committed people don’t beat themselves up for falling short.
  • People who choose to commit always plan their lives around what it takes to achieve a goal.
  • Most committed people don’t understand the term “fail.”
  • People who commit themselves to a goal have an impact on the lives of those around them.

This Monday Morning  look around you, check your goals, evaluate your “commitments”.  We can’t be passionately committed about everything. Choose what you are passionately committed about and compare that passion against Cottrell’s list above.